After having someone like this in your life, not having it can feel very scary and isolating. As a human you most likely crave some level of physical comfort.
It may be that you’re open to intimacy with someone new, but haven’t found anyone.
Death, regardless of the details, is capable of devastating those it leaves behind.
Although they may have been selfish from time to time (who isn’t?
), overall they probably thought of your needs and wanted you to be healthy and happy.
Although commonalities exist amongst people who have experienced a certain type of loss, individual grief is as unique as the person experiencing it and their relationship with the person who died.
While we are hesitant to categorize and careful not to compare, we do acknowledge that there’s merit in recognizing commonalities.
For many of you, your significant other was the one person who knew how long to let you vent and how to calm you down.
In fact, there are times when you still pick up the phone to call them after a terrible day, only to be reminded that they are gone.Maybe they knew your weaknesses and fears; where you came from; and what you’ve been through.It can be comforting to be is not easy to come by and takes a long time to build.However, we do know that these types of losses canpresent very specific barriers, stumbling blocks, and secondary losses.Of note for people who don’t regularly read WYG: we have linked some of these to past posts which go much further in depth on the topic.Your bed is half-empty when you go to bed at night, and again when you wake up in the morning. After the death of a partner, there are endless logistical considerations like household chores, the loss of primary or secondary income, childcare, paying bills, paperwork, estates, dealing with their belongings, the loss of identity, and so on. Regardless of what you’re dealing with, trying to balance life after the death of a partner can come with a lot of responsibility and pressure.