"Your date might wonder if you really like them, or if you’re just anxious for a relationship. When a reward is out of our reach, we try harder to get it.Being too available or coming on too strong can be a turn off and can make someone quickly lose interest."The Fix: Don't be afraid to initiate conversation and date-planning, but remember that healthy relationships involve some degree of independence.
"When you first meet someone, the information you begin to acquire is over-emphasized," Chlipala says.
"You don’t have much to go on in the beginning, so the actions your date takes or the details they give you take on more significance.
Screwing up when you're just starting to date someone new.
Brand-spanking-new relationships are equal parts fun and terrifying: you're super excited to get to know someone and see where things go, but you're also low-key terrified that something will get effed up along the way.
I'm definitely a repeat offender when it comes to oversharing.
It's important to be open and honest in a new relationship, but that doesn't mean you need to lay your deepest darkest secrets onto your new partner from date one.
In a long-term relationship, you’ve spent more time with someone and you have a bigger context into which to put their behaviors and quirks."The Fix: When you're seeing someone new, allow yourself to be vulnerable if the mood is right, but don't force deeper, more revealing conversations to happen prematurely.
If you do let something slip that you realize (too late) might be a little intense, all you have to do is own up and admit that you're feeling insecure about how much you shared.
Controlling or manipulative behavior, extreme jealousy, or always needing the last word during an argument can be indicators that your partner is toxic.