It’s a part of life that the Internet has actually made simpler and faster.
Just whittled down from 12 email contacts, all of which met my initial criteria, to 3, maybe 4, possible men to date (will be meeting one Sunday). Between my profile, our emails, and our phone conversations, they know what I want.
Let’s face it, sometimes people want no-strings-attached sex.
I seem to always attract “great guys”, and we always have a lot of fun.
But anytime I want to gently “clarify” what he wants (kids, family) nearly each and every guy I’ve dated shies away. And you ask so many questions that you scare men, and sabotage your own relationships.
I don’t think I come across as “easy”, and I am intelligent and take care of myself. Maybe you won’t say anything because you know that if you do, the relationship will end. If my 38-year-old fiancé had done that after a month or three, we wouldn’t be getting married.
However, I can never seem to transition properly from the “fun” woman to the “long-term” relationship woman, as the intelligent, loving partners I have had don’t seem comfortable ever talking about a future. I am so tired of feeling as though I am doing this all wrong in my attempts to find a real partner for the past 13 years. That’s exactly how you can desire marriage but stay in a five-year relationship without a ring. She was cool enough to allow me to choose her, instead of forcing my hand.
Another reason to delay would be if the person you are communicating with has expressed extreme reservations about meeting people from the internet.
I once talked to a woman for two months before we met.
Or a best friend/fuck buddy who doesn’t want to make a commitment. Because, as I said above: the answer will be revealed to you. This is the crux of this article, if not my entire dating philosophy for women.
Or a two-year-relationship that doesn’t result in marriage.
It is important to meet early on so less time is spent talking to the wrong person and more time is spent trying to find the right one. The first date should be planned not long after communication has begun.