He might just be nervous, but he could also be someone other than who he says he is.I exchanged phone numbers with a guy, and when he called me to set up a date, he was drunk,” says Lindsay.
That is, until you receive a message or phone call confessing that the picture he sent wasn’t really him, and that he’s actually five years older than he claimed, but now that you’ve gotten to know him, that shouldn’t be a problem, right? The intent is to trick potential dates into falling for their “inner beauty,” but all this ruse really reveals about someone is that he’s a liar.
People who employ this tactic generally aren’t tender souls who are afraid of rejection; they’re just not confident enough to be themselves.
But the good ones are indeed out there, and luckily, the bad ones usually reveal themselves early in the process.
Watching out for these warning signs can make it easier to take a relationship from email to in-person.
Maggie from New York City specified in her profile that she wanted to meet someone between the ages of twenty-five and thirty-five who lived in Manhattan, so receiving emails from sixty-five-year-old men who lived a hundred miles away was not amusing.
Someone who blatantly disregards what you’ve stated you’re looking for is simply wasting your time.
Some brazen daters even post contradictory information right on their profile (“I’m really forty, even though I listed my age as thirty-five”), as justification for trying to show up in more searches for “men over six feet tall,” or “women under forty.” Presenting oneself in the best light is one thing, but outright lying is quite another.
Online dating was supposed to make it easier to meet and screen potential dates, but sometimes it seems as if it’s just added one more layer of effort that requires you to filter out the crazies to get to the good ones.
If that didn’t turn her off, then the subsequent emails from the same men asking why she was an ageist definitely did.