Swiping through friends' dating apps gives me a legal high.
Like a lot of other women in long-term relationships, I totally missed the online-dating boat.
An oft-cited Ok Cupid study from 2014 backs this up.
An incredible clip from April of this year tackled this issue, branding it "sexual racism." Note: This is way different from having preferences.
It's about ruling out entire groups of people because of stereotypes or because you think there's no way you could be attracted to them.
"All I want is to date a respectable, professional man of any color who loves me with all my chocolate skin and rolls.
What bothers me the most is the fact that I'm not given a chance."Research on the subject highlights one unfortunate fact: Black women are the lowest on the online-dating totem pole.
I told the dude that was racist and not indicative of how all Indian people live," she says.
And sometimes, the weirdness isn't from actual people, but from the dating services themselves.
The clip is a great summary of so much annoying racial asshattery. All of the above isn't to say that race-related comments upset every woman who deals with them. Monica K., 26, an Asian woman in Baltimore, Maryland, hasn't come across these situations when online dating.
But guys have approached her in person to say things like, "I've never had an Asian before." "It's like I'm a Pokemon card," says Monica.
"I think in the age of swiping apps, there's less ability to overtly discriminate, but there is still a lot of preference for women who meet a certain look," she explains.
Even though she's occasionally dealt with guys who went out of their way to say things like "I'm down with the swirl" (BRB, rolling my eyes for the rest of eternity), Sarah also feels like swiping apps are "pretty welcoming of diverse people," especially in cities like San Francisco and New York.
Listening to her experiences makes me want to set something on fire.