Even though intellectually I knew it wasn’t true, but emotionally [I was] blaming myself for not meeting a seemingly objective standard of what is attractive.” MC Maltempo, a 36-year-old Korean American who grew up in Golden, Colo., also met his significant other online.He first joined in 2006, but only started using it seriously in 2013.
But when Montecillo reached the section that asked for his ethnicity, he hesitated.
Montecillo, whose parents are Filipino, was born in New York and spent 13 years living in Hong Kong.
He was “looking for a person who he wanted to spend a lifetime together with,” Jiang said, “instead of playing around.” READ MORE: Sexting is widespread.
In the past, most dating problems could be attributed to being too picky about your partner.
A little over a year later, Maltempo married a woman he met on the site.
But dating — online or off — was hardly a smooth experience.When he signed up for Ok Cupid in 2013, he was in Singapore but began using it more frequently when he moved to Portland, Ore., the following year.It was around then that he saw Ok Cupid’s data on race and attraction.“I feel like I’ve grown into being more socially outgoing and talkative, but I wasn’t always that way,” he said.“I think there was a long time where I felt ashamed, ashamed or self-conscious, or attributing me being single to the fact that I don’t have these qualities and I need to have these qualities in order to attract people.Alan Montecillo logged on to Ok Cupid and started filling out his profile.