Masculinity in American culture is an idea often predicated on aggressiveness and promiscuity." Replace Asian men with Black women, and exchange perceptions of masculinity with perceptions of femininity, and Blasian couples may have more in common than anyone would have ever guessed."In the way that Asian men have been distorted to reflect femininity, so too have Black women become masculinized," argues Schwartz. As Zora Neale Hurston once wrote, Black women and Asian men are not "tragically colored." I especially feel that the world is over-fascinated with who messages Black women on Tindr and why Black women aren't marrying.
Years ago, I read that Asian men are also less likely to marry non-Asian women, and are also less likely to be married overall.
In an article titled The Unmarriables: Why Black Women and Asian Men Should Date, Lauretta Charlton explores why Black women and Asian men, who seem to be less chosen, should get to choosing each other.
We're never even given real reasons as to why some men aren't responding to Black women.
Black women are being told we need to be open to IR dating, and at the same time we're being told no matter what we do, we're not going to get noticed anyway.
You can still find lots of good Thai women in Bangkok who have interest in foreign men.
Of course if you just hang out in the lower Sukhumvit sexpat area and only deal with the bargirls and ladies of the night then that is all you will meet.
He contends, "Yeah, and I think [ideas about desirability and otherness are] influenced by our culture and media, and our history." As a Black woman, these kinds of conversations on desirability and otherness are a bit taxing and a quite hurtful. What's also very real is new trends in Black women dating Asian men--not because each feels undesirable to the world, but because each are desirable to one another.
"Blasian" romances can be found everywhere these days, whether perusing Facebook groups, or meeting with Black female and Asian male couples face to face, or liking photos of Blasian couples on Tumblr.
Nine out of 10 of them would be fine with people in their circles dating someone outside their race or ethnicity.
And although a Black woman was at the center of the Supreme Court case that legalized interracial marriage between Blacks and Whites in America, Black women seem to be not only less likely to marry non-Black men, but less likely to marry at all. Most of the conversations I have with Black women about dating and relationships include a deeper conversation about how, , Black women need to engage in more interracial dating.
In speaking of an article discussing Black women and interracial (IR) dating, Laperf offers the following analysis: [T]here have been plenty of Black women that have been open to IR dating all along.