The almost obsequious fawning in the message on Facebook makes it even more clear that this isn’t going to go anywhere good; sucking up isn’t a good look on .
So how do you gauge what’s likely out of your level?
One of the hard and fast rules of dating and not being creepy is recognizing that everybody has boundaries and those boundaries are flexible; some people have greater levels of access to us than others because we have different levels of intimacy with them.
One of the keys of what makes somebody creepy is very simple: creepers assume a greater level of intimacy than actually exists.
The social context of being at church, for example, demands radically different behavior than being at a nightclub.
the accepted social context, then you end up making people uncomfortable.
By that same token, there are times and places where the social context says that says that it’s acceptable to approach a stranger and that a person’s presence is a general acceptance of the social contract.
These places include: variables that can affect what behavior is and isn’t appropriate; the same behavior that’s appropriate at a club is creepy as hell at work.A 5th level paladin isn’t going to survive going through the Tomb of Horrors and somebody who doesn’t have much social experience is better off sticking to accepted social spaces to approach women.This is one of the areas where Schoen seriously falls down.While there are obviously no hard and fast classifications, this list should serve as a decent rule of thumb.Dating 101 – Online dating, warm approaches, meeting friends of friends, parties Dating 201 – Cold approaches at bars and clubs, some low-key, low-investment daytime approaches (bookstores, coffee shops, comic stores, etc.) Dating 301 – More advanced daytime approaches (the mall, the gym, grocery stores) Dating 401 – Street approaches, public transit, etc. There’s a reason for that: it’s a fucking stupid idea.Something that I see a lot of people struggle with when and how it’s appropriate to approach and hit on women.