I’m right there in the trenches online at single parents' dating sites and on apps, looking for love and, mostly, looking to stay out of trouble.
Sometimes it seems I’m swimming in a very shallow dating pool, but I haven’t given up and taken in fifty cats. So here’s the down-low on dating sites I’ve tried as a SWM (single working mother). And remember: You can do it at home, at night after the kids go to bed, in your pajamas if you want. You set it up through your Facebook account and set your preferences within minutes.
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I know, I know, the logistics of dating as a solo parent who’s working to provide for her family can get tough.
I have witnessed this many times and men have openly shared with me that they would love to be married again one day and “make it right this time.” I have dated divorced men who have acknowledged that they spent a great deal of time building their businesses during their marriages and they wish they had been more romantic or listened more or had brought their wives flowers more often or had been more complimentary to their spouses. There are many divorced men out there who have taken the time to work on themselves and their mistakes after their marriage ended and have a new-found commitment to making things right the next time around.
Ladies, as much as we love men (and, I really do), we want to acknowledge that they can often mature, grow up and find their way in a relationship a bit more slowly than women do.
From search alone you only know age and distance, and then it’s up to the men to fill in the blanks briefly with some profile description. This leaves you wondering things like: • How tall is he? (My experience with Tinder was that men could waste your precious single-mom minutes messaging you back and forth.) Bumble’s biggest plus: You can “take back” a negative, left swipe for free (unlike Tinder)!
So if I make a mistake or want a second look at someone, I can backtrack and revisit a potential match.
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They seem to naturally have more of a routine and offer to do things that a lot of men who have never been married would not think to do for another person.
I have dated many single 40-year old men who are super set in their ways, while men who were married before seem to have a deeper understanding of taking care of a woman… [NOTE: if you’re ready to meet the man (divorced or otherwise) who is familiar with these little things, take the first step and try Meet Mindful for free today—the fastest growing dating site for conscious singles.] I openly share that I have chosen my career first and never wanted my own children.
As I have gotten older, I have loved dating divorced men with kids because it has taken the pressure off of me to have children with them.