“If you absolutely must talk about somewhere that you need to be, or the fact that you’re in a rush, at least wait until afterward!
It turns out that talking during sex does more than wake the neighbors.
They basically speak two completely different languages.
People who were more confident in their sexual skills and less anxious about talking to their partners about sex communicated more openly about what they find pleasurable during sex. Admittedly, many people may have trouble telling sexual partners what they like and dislike during sex. Moaning, body movements, and facial expressions that indicate pleasure can direct a partner to doing more of the things you find sexually enjoyable.
Indeed, according to this survey, both telling your partner what turns you on and demonstrating it non-verbally are linked to higher sexual satisfaction.
Can I tell you what would really turn me on right now?
' Everyone is more vulnerable and sensitive in bed, so avoid making overtly critical comments."Dirty talk can be intimidating for several reasons. is a common concern."Most people tend to avoid making much noise because they worry about saying something their partner doesn’t like, feeling like a poor imitation of a pornstar, or just not knowing what to say," sex psychotherapist Vanessa Marin writes for Bustle .
When men do communicate, they like to get to the point, but women enjoy talking for its own sake.
Thus a gap in communication is created and we have the root of most problems in a relationship.
Sexologist and sexuality educator Megan Andelloux tells Men's Health : "[P]lease stop asking if she came or saying that you want to see her come. It can be lovely..it should not be the goal.”Communicating isn’t just about directing clueless partners towards the actual location of your clitoris. Have fun with moaning, squirming, or whatever feels right in the moment—it’ll let your partner know that what he or she is doing is really, really working.
For people nervous about speaking up, physical expression can be key."It could be perceived as being less threatening, so it might be easier to moan or to move in a certain way to communicate that I’m enjoying the sexual encounter than to say, 'Hey, this feels really good, I like that,'" health communication expert Elizabeth Babin tells Live Science .
Fixing this break in a couples' communicating methods is a great step towards better understanding the needs of your partner.
When it comes to actually talking, men and women speak in very different ways.
but it is also important to do so right in the heat of the moment.