While she had previously had sex with other partners, he was a virgin, as she learned when they had their first kiss and he "made a big deal" out of it.
"I did not understand how, as a senior in high school, kissing could be such a sacred act," Darlene told .
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At that time, I had already made a commitment to abstinence.
I never took an official pledge or anything, but I'd made a personal decision, based on my Christian beliefs, to not lose my virginity until marriage.
I'd thought my chastity was just a minor dating roadblock.
But for him, it was nothing less than a deal-breaker.
There's a strong sense of shame associated not only with sex outside of marriage, but with sex in general.
Darlene*, 26, witnessed that sense of shame firsthand when she began dating her ex-boyfriend Tyler her senior year of high school.
"I really loved her and was eager to sacrifice sex for genuine companionship," he said.
"The religiosity, however, was an unavoidable problem because you can't make yourself believe something no matter how hard you try." Maggie, 34, was 17 when she started dating her first boyfriend, who was a devout Christian.
When I was 15, the boy I'd been secretly dating told me over AOL Instant Messenger that he liked me, but he didn't want to see me anymore.