If he still lives in his house where he used to live with his ex, then you’d have to be prepared. They will judge you and even stack you up against his ex.
Walk through that stage where they will look you up and down, as well as talk about you behind your back. So you have to learn to adjust to a new, and perhaps strange role of being like a stepmom to his kids. However, if your goal in a relationship is just to enjoy the dating part and are not ready to have instant kids, rethink going out with a divorced guy.
However, keep in mind that you can’t please everyone. [Read: 9 naughty ways to keep romance alive when you have kids] #12 What about your own future kids with him?
The important thing to focus on remains your relationship with your boyfriend, which should speak for itself in the end. Tread lightly in this department, because you consider both their well-being without overstepping any boundaries offending them and his ex-wife. When dating a divorced guy, you also have to think not only of his kids *if he has any* but also the idea of future kids with him. Some divorced guys with kids don’t want to have any more kids so you have to include this into the equation.
[Read: 9 easy things you can do to get his mom to adore you] #10 You may feel judged by his kids. Having kids of his own already, do you think he’s ready/wants more kids with you? [Read: 50 relationship questions to test your compatibility] #13 He may be traumatized. Perhaps his ex-wife has an addiction or mental disease *well, some guys would say their ex-wives are crazy*, or the whole marriage has been disastrous.
Either way, no one comes out of a marriage unscathed.
Discretion doesn’t just come mean hidden from public. Simply don’t advertise your relationship on social media just yet, especially if the divorce proceedings started.
Unless you want to be portrayed as the home-wrecker.
In this day and age where divorce rates are high, it’s still curious why being divorced still catches flack. Consider dating a divorced man if you’re looking for someone eligible.
For most people, divorce implies failure, disaster, tragedy, neglect, nasty custody battles, nastier money issues, and irreconcilable differences. 14 things you should know when dating a divorced man So while dating a divorced man may be new and exciting to you, don’t let him swoop you off your feet just yet. Knowing where the divorce stands, and where he stands in the divorce, tells you just how committed he is in a potential relationship with you, and if you should be serious about the relationship.
Some even cringe at the idea of dating a divorced man. Think about these things first and make sure you know what you are getting when dating a divorced man. Before even thinking about dating a divorced man, first know where the divorce really stands. [Read: 10 signs a past relationship is holding you from a better future] #2 You may have to be discreet for a while.
In fact, many people find happy endings after a couple *or more* divorces.
Maybe he has shortcomings, such as a bad temper or he’s utterly heartless. Has he learned from the mistakes of his past marriage, or is he just reliving it all again?