You’re just seeing what he’s doing online and that information is freely available to the world.Your motivations for checking up on this are worth looking at, though, because it gives me the feeling that either something inside you feels like you don’t quite trust this guy or that you don’t trust the relationship you’re in to have trust as a quality (and so you’re always checking and testing because you don’t have that trust to begin with…
At this moment, you are reading into the situation negatively, assuming that he has bad motives or could be playing you.
The fact remains though that you don’t know, but hopefully having a conversation with him will bring you closer to knowing. It is true there are dishonest people in the world and it’s perfectly reasonable and healthy to be suspicious when you get the sense that you’re with someone who’s lying to you. However, there are times where we ourselves are paranoid…
It’s reasonable to interpret that as meaning you’ve agreed to not date anyone or sleep with anyone else, but I want to ask: when you agreed to be exclusive, how did this come about?
How clear was his side of the agreement to being committed?
So in this first section, I wanted to walk through getting on how committed he really is in the first place.
As I’ve said many times before, it is in your best interest to remain single until a man steps up to enthusiastically, clearly and sincerely propose a committed relationship with you.
So this may or may not be a situation you need to say NO to…
It is possible that when you talk to him, you’ll gain insight into his position.
Only you can decide if what you learn convinces you to keep participating in the relationship or not.