If there’s even a remote possibility that you could be dating your best friend – that you could love them and they could love you in a deeper way – surely it’s worth exploring?
Whether it’s making you feel more secure in the relationship by not eyeing up strangers, or nagging you less, or treating you more on dates, your best friend has access to a ton of neat tricks that will make them the partner you actually deserve!
Be warned though: While your friend may always have been there to console you after a messy break-up, they might not have been there for all of the bad times with your ex-partner.
You both probably already do all of the things that make you happy anyway – whether it’s going out for drinks, or catching a movie, or just chilling at home, you’re already accustomed to having fun together.
It’s just that, up to this point, you haven’t been calling them ‘dates’.
Forgive them if they don’t know every last detail of how it went wrong last time – they’re your friend (and new partner) not super-human, and no-one will remember as well as you do!
Be encouraged that your best friend helped you through those times at all, and that you’re both in a much better place now.
“Elaine: All right, let’s go, I’ll give you half an hour. Elaine: Jerry, we have to have sex to save the friendship. Well if we have to, we have to.” – Seinfeld It can be scary sometimes heading into a new relationship knowing that you’re carrying a lot of emotional baggage with you.
Letting your guard down when you’ve been hurt before is hardest, and trusting that your new partner will be understanding enough to ‘just get it’ doesn’t always work out. Luckily, they’re already well aware of any emotional baggage, and can take steps to ensure they don’t make the same mistakes your ex-partners might have.
“I love that you get cold when it's 71 degrees out.
I love that it takes you an hour and a half to order a sandwich.
One of the biggest advantages to dating a friend is that they already know your bad habits – and you know theirs!